Patience: There’s No Getting Around It!

Published by Sheryl Sitts under Addiction / Codependence,Career,Death / Loss,Divorce,Faith / Religion,Goals,Health / Wellness,Relationships on July 15, 2012

You who know me personally can attest I’m quite a high-energy woman!  When I set my sights on a purpose and back it with all my passion, knowledge, and energy, heaven help anyone who isn’t on board the Sheryl train!  Many people have no idea how to handle me when I get that way, and throughout my youth I believed that was just their problem.  A couple of decades into ‘adulthood’, I’ve changed my mind on that one.  If you too are someone wishing to make a difference in this world, I invite you to humor me for a moment on this one…

I have really grown to understand that the kind of lasting, powerful change many of us wish to affect on whatever cause is passionate in our heart can only occur slowly.  Quick change can feel so good for us who enjoy immediate gratification, but what a huge disappointment to discover the following week / month / year that it is gone.

I’ll admit it is challenging to wait patiently when we see any form of life suffering or dying, yet patience is exactly what is needed.  We did not create these situations, and the only hope for any of them is patient, diligent progress toward resolution.  We must transcend that feeling that we are the savior riding in to save whatever, and instead see ourselves as a part of a much larger community of like-minded, like-spirited individuals.  The real impact comes from collective unification.  Connect with fellow souls on your journey and together see a much deeper, stronger impact.  Meditate regularly and hold a strong vision of your mission achieved, so that you attract all the resources and people that will help you manifest that.  Patient, loving, committed, deep faith brings about real change…both in ourselves and in this world.

One way we can build our patience is by understanding that nothing is really wrong here.  We entered a place that is as it is, an earth school with lessons of all shapes and sizes for everyone.  If a cause is near and dear to our heart, perhaps that is a clue to the kind of karma we brought into this lifetime.  The real key to this place is to take what you like and leave the rest, and to love everyone through it.  All of us experience suffering, confusion, misguided actions, and the like.  The ones we love through these experiences with compassion and empathy transcend them to become better souls for it all, while the others get lost in the lessons.

Have a patient, persistent, and loving day, week, and life.  How?  Moment by moment, my friend, connected with others who choose a similar path.  No one is an island.

Namaste,

Sheryl Sitts, Chief Inspirational Officer

Journey of Possibilities

Creating What We Really Want

Published by Sheryl Sitts under Addiction / Codependence,Career,Divorce,Goals,Health / Wellness,Relationships on July 7, 2012

“I wish my daughter/son wouldn’t…”

“I hate it when my mother/father…”

“Why does my boyfriend/husband/girlfriend/wife always have to…”

When someone asks us what we want, it is often easier to say something like, “I don’t know exactly what that looks like, but I’ve sure learned I don’t want this and I don’t like that and they’d better not…”  We live in a very rule-based and, don’t shoot the messenger for saying it, but judgmental society.  As such, we tend to focus more on eradicating negative than creating positive.

So what?  Well, the law of attraction teaches us that we always manifest that which we focus on with our thoughts, our speech, and our attention.  There are no negatives in that realm either.  That means I’d better say I am thankful for the dry weather than to say I hope it doesn’t rain.  The difference is as subtle as “dry” vs. “rain”, yet that makes all the difference for an outdoor wedding, picnic, or ride.

It’s so easy to fall back into negative speech patterns, especially if we have fear about an outcome and focus on avoiding something, or if we were raised in such an environment.  However, we do well to have reminders in our lives to stay positive and be responsible co-creators of our dream existence.

Are you sick?  Visualize wellness, vitality and energy every single day.  Is there conflict in your core relationships?  Visualize peace and love!  Is there poverty and lack in your life?  Visualize a bountiful flow of abundance and your needs being met.  BELIEVE this is your outcome, and watch life transform.

If you’d like to learn more about the Law of Attraction and creating your dream life, please enter your email on the website to get a copy of my free ebook How to Jump Off a Cliff and Fly.  Let’s absolutely, positively create what we really want right now!

Namaste,

Sheryl Sitts

Chief Inspirational Officer

Journey of Possibilities

Ants, Pine Trees…What Good Are They?

Published by Sheryl Sitts under Addiction / Codependence,Career,Faith / Religion,Goals,Health / Wellness,Prayer / Meditation,Relationships on July 1, 2012

Pine trees grow in groves and forests rather than being sparsely scattered across the landscape.  They drop a lot of needles and quickly grow tall enough to hog the sunlight, leaving only their trunks at our eye level and crowding out slower-growing hardwood trees that struggle for light and space.  Since the hardwoods are typically fuller and more popular, many people chop down pine trees to make space for other preferable trees.  I love all life too much to do that and have mostly pine trees around my home.  And then there are the ants…

Ants have taken over my lawn!  No matter how much I try to rid myself of these stinging pests, I am apparently outnumbered.  Fire ants bite me each time I mow the grass.  Tiny ants continue to find a way into my kitchen and bathroom.  Many people would have declared chemical warfare by now, but I don’t like to distribute poison and most natural remedies have as yet been ineffective.

Yesterday I was considering these generally unwanted ‘pests’ of the insect and plant kingdom and found it interesting that we humans deem ourselves worthy judges to remove all that we feel doesn’t belong.  We do it with ants and pine trees and people.  We do it with old architecture and natural wonders and pretty much everything else.  This us-and-them mentality of competition and judgment is rampant.  Why does the human ego need to be judge and jury? Could we learn anything important from our unwanted nuisances?

Pine trees are amazing to observe.   Despite a relatively shallow root structure, they can live for many, many years through adverse conditions.  Watching them whip about with their long trunks to survive hurricane season after active hurricane season, I see how flexibility and endurance help us win in the game of life.  I watch hardwood trees fill in around them to happily coexist with their lanky friends.  Pine needles protect the ground during seasons when it should be covered.  Who am I to come in and remove the natural order of things to replant what I deem desirable?  Isn’t that behavior rather odd when we look at it?

Ants are experts on community living.  They work tirelessly together and operate as a collective in everything.  In the Amazon, I observed a freeway of female carpenter ants (see photo) carrying leaves tirelessly for about a mile to the colony in their nest.  Our guide informed us that the females work 24 hours a day doing that!  Ants provide a service in the greater ecological synergy of life.  Who am I to poison any because I want them gone?  Why would I do that?

Some of the most amazing people I have ever met are outcast by mainstream society.  Their beauty standing in their own unique personality, gifts, potential, and self-expression are the finest anywhere.  No society can manufacture anything more perfect.  Maybe the reason we humans struggle to obtain an abundance of artificial comfort and beauty is that it isn’t honoring to who we are anyway.

An important aspect of learning to love ourselves is learning to love all that is…as it is!  The more I accept life and see the beauty therein, the more beauty and possibility I see within myself.  May nature teach us well in this journey of possibilities we call life!

Namaste,

Sheryl Sitts

Journey of Possibilities